That one thing !

Ten years ago, Kesang left everything behind and headed to the city of dreams, the United States of America. With a concrete plan in his mind he went off with a dream to earn Nu. 5 lakhs. He had everything set of to what he would do with the targeted sum he were to earn. He initially planned to work only for three years and come back home to make something out of himself.

This year, it is his tenth year at New York and he gives himself a laugh on recalling his dreams during the initial stages of his stay at the city. He notes life can’t always move on the pace as we want it to and just like he is still stuck there, at times our destiny seems pointless to where it is headed.

Money, Kesang believes should not be the ultimate goal because the more we earn, the more we spend. There is a point to be noted. Having started his career from scratch in what seemed like an alien land when he first put his foot away from his village at Trashigang, Kesang started off as a butler. With days added onto make years, today he is one of the manager at a five star hotel in the food and beverages department. Kesang currently lives in the Bahamas and has plans to return to Bhutan but with no idea when, he responds with the term ‘soon’

Let us now move onto another common destination for the Bhutanese, Australia. It has become a trend in our society for one to say that they are leaving for Australia and with their repeated statement, Australia now seem like a next door neighbor. Not to forget social media has been a powerful weapon to make this world a global village.

Sonam (name changed for confidentiality) like many other in our society left her profession as a teacher in Bhutan because with many mouths to feed, her income was not able to support her large family. The visa approval to Australia for her master’s degree mustered in her the idea that things were going to change at home with the powerful currency she believed she was going to earn. The wings of the dragon reached her many miles away from home and it was the days that followed made her realize leaving abroad with a dream comes with a price. Desperate to give the curious ears at home a positive answer, Sonam says she went door to door looking for a job and that in a way was no less than a beggar one often come to us in desperate need for some pennies.

On the contrary there are some people placing their roots and for them they seldom have the thought to come back home. What more do we need in this universe than a family beside you. Tshering, who is a photographer lives happily at New York City with whole of his family. Home is where the heart is and though he claims to miss the aura of a homeland he has well-adjusted to a place which has provided shelter for him and his family.

There is no such thing as the majority of us living here and gaining the ultimate pursuit of happiness against many others scattered around the world or to term them the minorities because we are bonded by one common thing. That one thing is ‘culture’. 

You may have to go for the food there but your taste buds will always dance to the tune of the home food. You may think you are used to foreign languages but an unexpected hear of your mother tongue will always make you wear a genuine smile. You may think you will not fit in their land with your traditional attire but you will be eagerly waiting for occasions when you can proudly and comfortably wear your traditional clothes. And finally you may get attracted to people from their land but deep within you are still looking and hoping for that someone special from home because you share the same emotions.

While Kesang spends his leisure time in the embraces of the beautiful beach at Bahamas, he also awkwardly confesses he would like to be able to share such moments with someone from home. As for Sonam, she suffered quite a hurdle but her first year of stay in Australia not only helped her clear off her debts but she has some savings too. Tshering is one of the most active social network users and if one is to claim a positive bloggers he sure is. His active updates on life away at the other part of the world and the endless support he renders for national events at home wants us to applaud him for such spirits.

For Bhutanese, our society has always been intact and when one suffer the other cry and vice versa. Whether one feeds themselves on the grass at home or depends on the foreign land, we will always share that bond and that pride in being the sons and daughters of Palden Drukpa and it is this spirit that makes it easier for other races to discover we are from the land of Happiness, from the GNH country.

Nge Sem gi Story : the path forgotten

How far can an individual in their teens go to pursue their passion?

The stereotypical notion in our society is to have a son or a daughter completing their degree and joining as a civil servant. It might have worked for the previous generations but now times have changed and so have our priorities.

Nge sem gi story, a short film consisting of youth all in their teens depicts the story of their parent’s expectations versus their passion.  A teenager is considered incapable of deciding what he or she wants in life and they are forced to choose the path their elders decide for them. Nge sem gi story explains nothing can’t be achieved if one has the will power and their tender age don’t make them not knowing what they want in life.

The movie is the very first of its kind and the film director, a nineteen year old twelve pass out student tells me having completed the movie itself is an example they can cite for they overcame all of the obstacles they had to face in coming up with the movie.

The group tells me we have always heard of youth being the future citizens of the country but it’s time to accept the fact that youth are also the present citizens. A movie any youth can relate, it has romance, dilemma and the path for determining one’s passion. Releasing in a few days, the group is planning to hit the schools all over Bhutan.

As for me I could only smile as they explained. A new gateway for films in Bhutan and it’s now that I see Bhutanese films going a step higher.

Too much cars for a tiny city

The volcanic issue of the increasing number of vehicle in the urban area is about to erupt with severe consequences.  Peak hours in Thimphu is seen with an enormous number of cars jammed and shows a warning signal as to the number of vehicles equaling the number of people in years to come. The question of what needs to be done is out of the league when it comes to town planning because the thought of expanding the road seem an impossible task.

As an observer I feel the need to improvise on the public transport service making it easily accessible at any point so that people can trust to reach their destination given any location. This however the public feels is not reliable in times of emergencies.

Import of petrol and diesel from India has been stated at the largest contributor to the trade deficit existing in the country and listed as one of the main reason for the rupee crisis. Measures to overcome rupee crisis included substituting current vehicles with electric cars and getting rid of government pool vehicles. The result is just before our eyes.

It’s time to come up with more effective measures to suit people of any class or else in between beating around the bush the outcome will be beyond what we can handle.

At times, an advisor

Giving out advice is not in me but it is mandatory with your friends especially when they look up to you with eyes full of questions. With a year older in this human race, let a year old senior speak, will you?

Friend:  Hey what do you think is more important, money or career?

Me:  Career. Hmm..money..nah..hmmm..both. (We laughed)

 ‘well for now, since I hardly have to support anyone I think I will have to focus on my career. Experience is what matters to me. Once I am trained and capable, I think money will come to me naturally”

    We giggle

Friend: embay mo

This was a casual conversation between me and my friend last night and now that I reflect back, I could read between the lines the serious tone that existed. Observing my friend who is soon going to join thousand others for the Preliminary Examinations, I sensed that she is worried of what lie ahead. This was what I went through a year back, with future that seemed so confusing. For all my friends in a similar situation right now, keep the bar of worry to minimal but don’t be too lazy to at least know what you want. You don’t want to sit for PE? Fine. Don’t do just to fit in the bandwagon. To see my friend in such a mood makes me want to reflect on myself so that I can give out some encouragement.

‘I have learned to grab hold of all the opportunities that come my way’ is what I told her and I think experience is the best teacher.

Dear friends, don’t be pressurized for anything if you think you don’t belong there, follow your dreams.

              That was quite a thought (haha)

Darwin's Theory in Plants

Being an environmentalist was never my dream and it isn’t for now either. But at times just like the way you prefer the paa and not the hoentshay and the overall curry I am fascinated by the theory of the survival of saplings which basically has to do with the happenings of the environment the saplings are placed in.

As ironic as I might sound, I am a passionate florist and consider myself a green thumb. I can live without a single furniture in my home but not without a single plant.

With the little idea I had on the treatment that has to be given to flowers in general as we nurture them, I am fascinated by the fact that plants in general share the life as we humans do.

Prior to the plantation date wherein Bhutan was to attempt the first ever world record, the saplings were kept in an open area and this was done to make the plants familiar of the environment that they will be living in henceforth said the plantation advisor.

Why so? Interestingly here applies Darwin’s theory, the survival of the fittest. The saplings that can make it through the harsh sun and the bitter rain shall be considered fit for the plantation.

If you happen to visit China, you probably will suffer from cultural shock on their monkey eating tradition or the fetus eating one. The plants similarly go through these stage while we transport them to an entirely new climate and hence take time to adapt.

                                          Every day is a learning experience.  

Second round of plantation?

This piece is in response to the article published on Kuensel in regard to the Mass Tree Plantation in an attempt to set world record on June 2nd 2015. Well I am concerned on the headline "second round of mass plantation" this goes to the comments that followed the article.

http://www.kuenselonline.com/second-round-of-mass-plantation/#.VZWm6txVikp

So they have termed it the ‘second round of mass plantation’. Ever since the idea for mass tree plantation in an attempt to set a new world record was conceptualized, people had been watching like a hawk to how we are going about with the project.

The question of whether we could do was raised at large. After much ado all of the doubts and criticisms were put to rest with the success of the project.

The project itself was big and significant to leave any room for error and till this date and further the thought will be the same. Today marks a month after the event and pointing out that there needs another round of mass tree plantation is too early.

Not getting any offensive here and we appreciate your concern but just as a matter of fact, the mass tree plantation has given birth to BEGIN project (Bhutan-Eco Green Initiative Network), an autonomous body which will supplement on the well-being of environment in our country. The project will also make sure the trees planted on June 2^nd survives and it will do numerous after care exercises for the next six years. The saplings which might occur to one as dead are indeed going through what the forest specialist term it as 'shock'. Hence the saplings which are in a state of  'shock' beyond its chances of  survival are constantly being replaced and this according to the Forestry officials are never to term plantation.

So it will be fair to say 'numerous after care exercises' is needed for now or that another mass tree plantation is needed if the condition of the saplings are same as of now after several years and then term it whatsoever.

The Oldest LUDROM in Bhutan

I had before me the oldest radio in Bhutan currently owned by Mr. Karma Tshering. An electronic which Mr. Karma now consider a possession it is worthy for it is older to him. With a little research done on the radio history in the world and in Bhutan, this is about the oldest ludrom in the country.

Ludrom as in Radio has transformed society three times, not to mention giving birth to the entire field of electronics. Perhaps no invention of modern times has delivered so much while initially promising so little.

 In 1885, a young Italian named Gugliemo Marconi invented what he called as the 'wireless telegraph' known to us today as the radio.

On November 2, 1920, KDKA the first commercial radio station in the United States went on air in Pittsburgh.

Radio was the first among the modern electronics to enter Bhutan.  On November 1973 the first radio broadcast was commenced when the National Youth Association of Bhutan (NYAB) began radio transmissions under the name "Radio NYAB”. In 1979 the government took over Radio NYAB and renamed it the Bhutan Broadcasting Service.

The year 2015 marks the  42^nd year after radio broadcast was commenced in Bhutan but story of the oldest radio in Bhutan reveals it entered the country 18 years before there were any local stations.

The radio Mr. Karchung from Bumthang who is now 77 years old owns can be authentically claimed as the oldest radio in Bhutan. Belonging to Philips brand it is one among the pioneer of radios. As a young trader at the age of 17, Mr. Karchung says he bought it from one on his visits to Bongaigoan, a state in Assam which was a buzzing town back then.

Those were the days of mule tracks and having to walk for days and moreover as a bachelor, Mr. Karchung is said to have found a perfect companion, the radio.

In those days Mr. Karchung recollects the attention he used to get from his friends for he owned the only radio among them.  He remembers tuning onto the most popular All India Radio also known as Akash Pani stationed at a locality known as Kurseong in Darjeeling.

To insert the batteries it has to be done with precision as its screws has to be opened manually and accuracy to fit back the screws is needed. It works with the normal three pairs of batteries and is said to last for solid six months.

As the country is celebrating the sixtieth birth anniversary of His Majesty the Fourth Druk Gyalpo, the claimed oldest radio is also marking its sixtieth year in Bhutan. 

3:09 PM, Sunday

I am bored at this hour. Boredom makes me either sleep or write so let me choose writing this time. My choice to write comes from endless thinking. I think about the current status of my life and how far I have come.

As a young woman having just started my career I have come to a point to make sure I radiate positive vibes not just to grab my dreams but to do it in a way that will improve me as a person.

Your patience whilst you have nothing and your attitude while you have everything.

                           Peeps, take these words, It helps to reflect on lots of things.

Let me not bore you with my career subject. Everyone will have a story to where they started and where they are today.

My brain has the capacity to shift on subjects. Now I am pondering over the thought of the common subject ‘LOVE’.

My definition of love has changed from the last time I remember falling for a guy. Falling for a guy  is a heavy statement, I would rather term it infatuation.

The first time I was made aware to this subject was when puberty hit me. I don’t know what in him attracted me but without any definition on love I was infatuated to him. Some of the highlights of this stage would be hinting my friends about him through his initials on the scrap books and behaving like I was on the top of the world when he passed by me. It lasted for quite some time until he changed school. He made me nervous, can’t deny the fact but puberty failed to give me proper definition on love.

During my teenage years, I was attracted to student leaders. To me, they were usually tall, cool and basketball players. Peeping through classroom windows and keeping the track on what they were doing my definition on love became immense admiration towards their looks and talents.

As maturity hit me there were some alterations to my definition. As a literature student, engrossed in literary romantic heroes my ideals and expectations were high until I met this guy. My first love. You dream your future with them. Their favorite colors become yours. There is always them before you. They rarely fit into the criteria I have mentioned while I was in my puberty or the teenage years. Nothing matters, looks nor talents. You just fall for them. They become your significant other. I have generalized these points because many can relate. It was the point where my heart substituted my brain in taking decision. You are hardly rational. I had my share of heart breaking moments and when they were gone the world seemed depopulated. My first love taught me love is blind and deaf. Maybe that’s the reason you fall in love, you never rise.

Love is a vast subject is what I know as an adult today. You are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life. Rest of your life is quite long so you gotta be sure of whether you can make it through together. For a companion I would like to be able to stay as best friends and feel for each other like soul mates. There’s gotta be five connections. Emotional, financial, physical, sexual and intellectual. I don’t want to explain all of it but for those of you reading it, take some time to think. For me, my definition of love as an adult has made me realize love is like an iceberg theory.

SECOND LIFE : from death and back

This article is written in first person point of view. I have known her through mutual friends and she is one person I would like to applaud. For every strength and hope she kept alive even when the closest soul to her thought she wouldn't make it to another day.

 This is her story......

 To look beautiful, to fit in the society who gives you the attention only if you are fashionable,  to have a job, a car, a good looking partner, nothing matters when your existence is questioned.

Seven months in a hospital , yes seven longest months of my life. I now know what is the most important thing in my life. My perspectives have changed. If you had met me before sickness overruled me, you would have seen me as a different person.

Appreciated by many for my skinny body without knowing that the deadly disease had been eating me up  for years I was often complimented for having a pretty face. Well, being fashionable, I dared not to compromise on it.

Don’t get me wrong, I do not define the typical mean girl. Long before my sickness, I knew the circle of friends I had to give importance to. I loved them and I would trade the world for their happiness. I knew someday I had to do my parents proud. So yeah for all I mentioned earlier, I am also defending the fact that a soft side existed in me.

Well boys, for them I was tricky. I would contemplate very little for all the lovey dovey words they would utter. It wouldn’t matter if I would date two or three at the same time because I considered myself allergic to love.

So yes, I was doing an intern at one of the ministry and I wouldn’t say life was frustrating for a fresh graduate which many think it is because though hated by few authorities (female authorities to be specific) I made few good friends without knowing they would linger around me during my difficult days.

Long before, I had the difficulty to stay straight up. I complained for such a disorder but in 2014, all of the lil disorders I had started to get worse. Few days before I was all excited for an event my company where I did intern host once in a year, I visited a friend of mine (she had been recruited for a job)  and I was still stuck as an intern.

I dared not to compromise wearing clothes to suit me, so I demanded some of her kiras and matched them with her tego and wonjus and got myself some beautiful combinations for a summer. That night was the last one in a row and I never had the idea.

After two days my event was to happen but I started falling sick. Vomiting, headache and dizziness all at a time, I missed the event and all of the pretty cloth combinations in vain. I visited the hospital suspecting a bad food poison and they did very little and while I doubted food poison they suspected me to be pregnant.

Frustrated I went home and took a bed rest. No one had the idea what lay ahead of me. My friend from whom I borrowed those kiras came to me worried and she had brought along with her a lama to perform a puja. (I told you I made good friends, she was one of them, definitely).

I  have a very vivid memory of what happened next. The next incident I remember is, it was very hot, painstakingly irresistibly hot. I sensed I was not in my country, the weather was something I experienced for the first time. I looked around, it was blur. Then I heard the machine beep. I looked around for people. I had questions to ask. Then I saw my mother. ‘ama..’

Seriously? I couldn’t hear my own voice. Wait, I couldn’t move my hands, what was happening to me. Was I paralyzed. That couldn’t be. I am known for my literally big eyes so I played the tricks with it. I looked at my mother, by now my eyes teary and thank god, I could hear and I could now see clearly. My mother asked me if I had pain and I told her through my gesture I was fine. Everything was numb, I didn’t feel anything.

She told me the doctor was coming to me. I wanted to ask where I was but I couldn’t. Moments later a man appeared in white dress, that probably must be the doc I thought. He came to me and checked the beeping machine and talked to me. Of course only he did the talking.

‘Sonam (name changed). You are at Calcutta and you just had two successful surgeries'. Two!!! I had two surgeries. I wanted to ask where and what surgery but as if he had heard me he said, 'one on your throat and the other on your spine'.

I wanted to cry and shout, and wait, did that mean I was not eating the whole time, will I be muted for the rest of my life. Tired of wanting to speak and not being able to, I closed my eyes.

The next memory I have of is the flight back home. There is nothing like home. The air I was breathing made me smile but I was not seated, I was laid and still I had no idea what was going on with my own body. I thought that would be it and I would be fine in few days and get back to normal life but that thought was like the tip of an ice berg.

I was placed in the ICU at the capital which was to be my second home. Days passed on and I had by now forgotten the last time I had eaten and my taste buds were demanding for some delicious food but I couldn’t ask for it. At some point I realized my mother was clearing away excretes from the bed sheet and every morning she wiped away whatever was left of the medicines on my skin . Oh mother I am sorry was what I wanted to tell.

Few days and I heard my mother tell me I had some visitor. Strictly prohibited to come in groups, they had to come individually. The first visitor was someone I had not expected to ever see again after we last departed. You would be surprised like I was. It was a ‘he’. A guy I randomly dated. The moment he saw me, he bursted into tears and cried like a baby. There was a look of terror in his eyes. Did I look like a monster, no? if that was it then he would not dare to come close to me. He kept on crying like a baby and all I could do was make use of the lil hand movement I could make. While he cried burying his face against the bed, I patted on his head and that was my way of telling him not to cry.

His visit made me realise a lot. I had taken him for granted as I did to all the boys I met. I was touched by his gesture. Of the many random visits by my friends, he visited me frequently.

Pain started to hit me in the coming days. I was having a sharp pain in my stomach and throat, oh don’t ask me, I felt like I was struck somewhere at the end of a deserted land where I couldn’t see a drop of a water.

Some days I would sleep the whole day and the other day I would think and think. Days were passing by and by then I was so used to all the pain I got and didn’t even bother to tell my mother or the doc about it.

There was this day when my friend (from whom I borrowed the kira) had come to visit me. Yes I was sick and bed ridden but my memory and my vision were clear. I saw a school mate from long before visit someone who was placed next to me. He did look at me but I guess my physical appearance was beyond recognition. I made my friend through the eyes gesture call him. She did ask him whether we knew each other and the guy came closer to me.

What he said next made me built up strength to fight for my life. ‘hmmm…Sonam? My god..is that you?’  he then asked my friend whether it was me and my friend nodded. ‘a pretty girl back then, look at her now, what happened to her, she looks horrible’ yes, he literally said that. I might have appeared half dead but I could hear and I could see the disgusting look he gave me. In that moment I made the effort to raise my hands. It was painful but I wanted to tell him someday I would be fine and I would fight it the best I could. My doctor told me I would have to make the effort to move my body and that was the first time I made the effort to do so.

One moment I had the dream of my family and they were happy, smiling but I felt distant. I was fading away. What was that message, was I to die? I was not ready. I immediately opened my eyes only to feel the tremendous and unbearable pain in my stomach. I moved my body feeling restless with tears overflowing. When asked by my doctor, in a long time I complained of my pain through gestures. 

They rushed with maybe painkillers because I could see the injections and several additional machines attached. After hours of fighting with the pain, I lost my consciousness. The next time I opened my eyes, I saw all of my relatives around me. The pain was quite the same but their presence made me feel it was subsiding. I was glad to see them circle me but it also questioned me. The authorities allow family members at a time to visit a patient in an ICU only if they think the patient will be taking their final breaths. Well that frightened me, I was not ready for it. I cried and equally did my family.

This created a buzzing environment in the ICU room and a nurse passed by us telling my family members to slow down the noises and she also said something that disturbed me further. ‘there is no use in crying, she is going to die any way’ I know years of experience and they see people die right in front of their eyes but there is something called as humanity and I might forget her but I will never forget how she made me feel.

There I was again, I wasn’t dead. I had made it through. I had answered the nurse by opening my eyes again to see the light of the universe. I had no idea what month and date I was living in but for me fighting to see another daylight was enough.

Encouragement was more important than the daily dose of medicine the doctors gave to my body. At certain point I needed moral support not medicines. If I am to remember that one person besides my mother who encouraged me everyday, it would be this man prolly a brother who came in certain shifts. Unlike others he gave me that most needed support and shared my burden. He ordered me to improve my mental thinking and not in any point think I was weak because he reminded me mindset do make a lot of difference and he was right. He cared for me like his baby sister and for that I will never be able to thank him enough.

Days after another, patients placed in the ICU had very little chance of survival and this proved right in front of my eyes. Deaths were rapid and I saw family bid farewell and cry to see their dear ones pass away. The bed would be empty just to be replaced after few hours. The room was a place for suffering and a thought would come for me in a similar atmosphere but I erased them away determined to fight.

One fine day, yes that would be the finest day of my life. I opened my eyes to find out that my throat was demanding for water and food. Demanding for them was a daily routine and just like everyday I called my mother expecting like any other day not to be heard. That day my mother responded, which meant I was audible. Yes I regained my voice. Words are not enough even today to express that moment. The first thing I told my mother was I was thirsty and hungry too.

She immediately went to a doctor and came back to me. The doctor praised me for the improvement and went away giving me the good news. I could eat and drink as much as I could he said. After an hour there they were. Food I didn’t eat for god knows how long. I ate dumplings that were placed before me, I drank juice, I ate fruits. I was craving for them.

There was no turning back after that day. I showed improvement day after another. After I started taking daily meals I also told my mother I would like to try standing up. The first time I stood up I was shivering and the first time I looked at my thighs I smiled remembering the dreaded look on the visitors because my legs didn’t look like one.

I started the physiotherapy and I was placed on a wheel chair. I was placed in a general ward and it meant I had the hope, the light of hope in me started becoming brighter.  A month in a general ward, I was discharged.

I am not fully recovered today. I am still a burden to my mother but I thank god for this second life. It made me realise a lot.

Daughters have a lot of disagreements with their mother but there is no figure like her. I have seen my mother become weak along with me. Those arguments we still had when I was too stubborn in the hospital bed, those warm embraces, those tears she shredded along with me when I was in pain, Mother I can never thank you enough.

And to that guy from my random date, I hope someday I find the strength both physically and mentally to express to you that in that silence, your cries reached to my heart and if I can I will not be deaf and blind to take your words sincerely.

To the brother from the ward, you are what I heard people say, god appears in human form. You are that to me.

To the guy from my school and the nurse, I also thank you both for you guys made me search for the lost strength. You guys made me stronger.

And finally to this second life. God gave me this chance with a reason and today I see many reasons. I have come to appreciate the little things in life. I am breathing the air, I have the privilege to live in the embraces of my mother. I have no desires, I have no set agenda for my life. All I want to do is LIVE in the present.

WITHIN MY CIRCLE

                                                      

I would like to introduce a strong figure in my life whom I consider my meymey (Grandfather). I have known him since I was a little girl and he is someone I have seen as I grew up. Several marriages between my cousins and his children, our ties became stronger.

Always radiating warm energies, he is someone I stay close to. He never ceases to fascinate me.

 Grandpa has moved on with modernization but he has firmly preserved the age old tradition. He is among those few people in Bhutan who still wear double gho, chew doma and never miss an archery game. On the other hand, his phone rings with “girl you are my love”, Yes ! his life story has taken on the dimension of an epic.

He is 90 years old but he has an active personality and so I never miss the opportunity to hear to his tales and his life stories which dates back to the reign of second King Jigme Wangchuck. 

This afternoon when I was going through the history text of Bhutan learning about Phajo Drugom Zhipo, boredom overruled me and I decided to receive oral lecture from grandpa and get a deeper insight into it.

Upon asking him about Phajo and his descendants,  to my surprise that I found out that grandpa is a descendant of Phajo’s lineage. (surprised?..well, I was too) . That was something new and my curiosity heightened and with utmost interest I listened to him.

I also found out that the ancestral home of Dampa (Phajo’s eldest son) is inherited by grandpa’s sister at the moment. Further he told me about the sacred possessions several of which they own.
Wow ! an interesting personal discovery. 

And guess what?
In this picture, I am proudly presenting the oldest and the youngest Drungdrungs.

14.11.2014

                                                      

                                                                                         

                                                                                         Lhuentse

I sat at the stall after I was done distributing the brochures and promotional books to the visitors. A young girl approached and lingered around the tent touching the books with hesitation. ‘choe ya goni ya?’ (do you want a copy?) I asked. Shyly she said ‘ong ashim’. I gave her a copy. She happened to stay there and kept smiling at me for whatever reasons. Finally I asked her where she was from and if she was a student. She told me she lived around but said she is not a student. 

To my surprise she said she is a mother of a child whom she delivered a month ago. Gawd ! she looked like a kid herself. Lo gamchi mo? I asked her, surprised. Khay chi chi (21). 21!! My age! Why did you marry this early? Did you drop school? What does the father of your kid do for living? My questions were too many for her to figure out which to answer. But the only answer I got left me shaken. 

Without any hesitation unlike the moment when she wanted a copy of the book, she said, ‘I was raped by a monk on my way back to home after school. I had repeatedly refused to entertain him but he won’t listen and a day came when he forced me and for this I had to bear all of these consequences’ my mouth literally dropped open. How can this be, I told myself. Gelongs are supposed to be pure and humble.

In the midst a staff mate of mine came and I summarised the conversation. We told her we would like to have a look at her baby. The baby looked fine and healthy. My staff ashim told her we should approach the consultants from RENEW who were there during the event and out of sympathy we even gave her some cash. 

However, her story gave a different angle when the consultants from RENEW whom we approached said she cooked up the story and whatever she said was a lie.

Now the issue to be concerned is not regarding who was speaking out the truth and who was not.
The thing is, what we can do to stop letting young girls fall victims of such incidences. The girl might or might not have spoken the truth, God knows but everyone is equal under the law of Tsa-Wa-Sum. The father of the child needs to be identified, I felt and still do. Who is to blame? Speaking of GNH, lets practice it and not just preach!!

 Picture source: Teenage pregnancy in Bhutan